Happy Valentine’s Day! Today, we celebrate love in all its forms. Romantic, parental, friend-to-friend, pet-love and more.
I like Valentine’s Day. It’s a nice reminder to give a little extra time and attention to our beloveds. My husband and I have a sweet tradition.
We keep it pretty simple, usually stay home and cuddle up, have a special meal and then exchange 4 or 5 cards ranging in message from funny to sweet to over-the-top romantic. We look forward to opening each card, taking turns, one at a time. It’s a quiet moment we take to express the love we share.
A few weeks ago, a dear friend of mine and I were having a nice long chat over a lovely glass of wine, and we landed on the topic of romance “at our age.” We’ve both been happily married a long time, and know that we’re lucky to have such great guys. They’re our partners, best friends, favorite playmates, and the loves of our lives. We did comment, though, that some of those over-the-top grand gestures of undying passion from the early days of courtship and marriage seem to be truly something of the past. We were not complaining, just noticing it as one of those things that change over time . . . with age.
The conversation then went to whether we really wanted those grand gestures again, and surprisingly, the answer was “not really.” Life and love are so much richer now. There are so many things that remind us of that if we’re mindful. Like waking at 2 a.m. and feeling him lying next to you, and in that half-asleep moment smiling for the simple joy and peace of it . . . or not eating the last cookie because you know how much he or she will enjoy it . . . sharing the bigger, sometimes difficult, life events knowing without a doubt that you’ll be the shelter in the storm for each other.
Sweet moments that flit by, but taken together create a beautiful life.
As we continued our discussion, it became clear that it was time for a few romantic gestures of our own – hopefully sparking a similar response from those two great guys. After all, shouldn’t expressions of our love be something we routinely make an effort to do? This is another one of those “if not now, when” things.
While we’re on the subject of love, how about a little self-love? It might sound selfish, but really, nothing could be further from the truth. The happier and more loving you are with yourself, the more love you have to give. So at least for today, but hopefully every day, I’m going to practice a little less self-criticism and a little more self-appreciation.
We all deserve a little more romance in our lives.
How about you? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Till next time,